The April 2017 Edition of “The Chirp”, the official Sparrow’s Nest newsletter, features an inspirational note from founder Krista Jones.
Sometimes I have the most rewarding job in the world. Sometimes I wish I didn’t have the job at all. As I sat in my office a few days ago, watching the woman sitting across from me uncontrollably sobbing, I felt helpless. As with most of the recipients, this woman had become my friend. Her husband and children had been at my house often, many dinners eaten, much laughter had.
And yet as I looked at her, I kept forcing myself to swallow and breathe slowly. I kept trying to focus on her and her words. The terminal cancer she was diagnosed with over three years ago was progressing. She has just picked out her coffin. She wasn’t sure how to heal her children before she left this world but she was battling to find a way. I guess at that point I could have said it was going to be OK or that miracles happen all the time or that I understood how scared she was, but it all sounded hollow. Fake. I couldn’t bring myself to saying those words. She had come to me because she was so exhausted with the front she put on for everyone else. Pretending to be strong and brave and an inspiration because she didn’t want to disappoint anyone. She just wanted someone to listen to her raw, uncensored emotions. So I told her the truth.
She can’t prepare the kids or fill the hole that will be in their hearts and in ours. She can’t comfort her husband because he will ache for her and there isn’t a thing any one of us will be able to do to ease the pain.
I told her how sorry I was and how much I wished she wasn’t diagnosed with this ugly cancer. I realized what she needs more than anything is acceptance. She needs people to accept her reality instead of trying to find a silver lining when, right now, she doesn’t see one. As much as I want to breathe life and hope into her, I understand it isn’t what she wants. If you know of someone facing a cancer diagnosis, please keep in mind they aren’t always talking to you about their illness for you to offer inspirational tidbits, sometimes they desperately just need someone to listen.
Here are some other highlights:
- You can hit two birds with one stone: support Sparrow’s Nest AND give a great Father’s Day gift! Learn More
- More than 300 parties attended our 80s Dance Party and helped us raise over $10,000!
- Join Team Sparrow on the Walkway for an amazing run!
- We’ve hired an Executive Chef, and our brand new kitchen construction is nearly complete!
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